I try to avoid thinking. Why? Because thinking causes migraines, brain tumors and gets me into way too much trouble.
People worry too much.
How much time and energy is wasted by worry? A lot. What do we worry about?
- Being Late
- Missing Something
- Forgetting Something
Mostly, we worry about life in general.
You could die.
How does this work? Here is the process.
- What is the worst that can happen if I am late for school? I could miss a test or assignment.
- What is the worst that can happen if I miss a test or assignment? I flunk out of school.
- What is the worst that can happen if I flunk out of school? I cannot find a job.
- What is the worst that can happen if I cannot find a job? I become homeless.
- What is the worst that can happen if I become homeless? I am forgotten.
- What is the worst that can happen if I am forgotten? I starve to death.
Is this a ridiculous scenario? Yes! You will NOT starve to death if you miss a test or assignment at school. This is an exercise that I taught myself when I worried about everything. It helps me laugh at myself.
Don’t Worry, Be Happy
That kind of worry is unnecessary and silly. It just causes unnecessary stress and doesn’t make anything better.
When you are worried about something ask yourself, “Can I change it?” If you answer, “Yes,” then change it. If the answer is, “No,” then get rid of it. If you can’t get rid of it, make fun of it. This may sound over-simplified, but it really isn’t.
Simple Does Not Mean Easy
How often do we complicate things? All the time. Often we complicate things trying to make them easy. Life is NOT easy. Just accept that fact.
If you need to change something, make a plan. Break it down into manageable steps. You don’t have to set a time limit. Sometimes that is just not reasonable. Be flexible. Life will happen. Repeatedly.
If you cannot change something and you cannot get rid of it, find the ridiculous. There are things in my life that just are. The bipolar (Bip), post-traumatic stress (Pots) and the anxiety disorder (the twins) will not go away. They make my life difficult and sometimes overwhelming. So I make fun of them. I call them dragons. I name them. I tell silly stories about them. I visualize them looking, or acting, ridiculous. I talk to them. I yell at them.
Laugh, A Lot
Joy happens in unexpected moments. Look for them. Enjoy each moment to the fullest. Write them down so you can read about them when life is hard. Talk about them. The more we focus on the joyful moments, the better prepared we are when the difficult times come.
A quick “ha ha” is not a laugh. You have to laugh until it hurts. You have to laugh until the tears come. It works better if you have someone to laugh with. Someone to share the jokes and memories. Someone who will say the words or make the faces that bring back the memories when life beats you up.
“A man is as happy as he decides to be.” — Abraham Lincoln
I choose joy, laughter and happiness. What do you choose?